Gone are the days where a simple text could cause you to doodle your new married name in a notebook—and think that is your forever person. As adults, we need real signs we're with someone we should marry. So here, our experts divulge five ways to judge you're dating a guy or gal who means married business.
1. You can come back from a fight.
It's not a good sign if you bicker nonstop. But, when you engage in an argument, you can each recover—and are more open to the other's needs—you're in good shape to say "I do," according to our experts. "Couples often struggle when their partner goes into a more primitive fight-and-flight response," describes David Klow, LMFT at Skylight Counseling Center in Skokie, Illinois. "If your partner knows how to stay open and present, rather than shut down, then you have good chance of making it through tough times. At the very least, if he or she knows how to call a time out and return later to the conversation, then that is a very good sign."It's a sure sign you shouldn't marry someone if he or she wants different things from life than you do. But if your goals are aligned, our experts say, you may be with someone to whom you could tie the knot. "Two people can date without having the same life vision, but marriage is a completely different story," says Colin Christopher, clinical hypnotherapist and author of Manipulate the Date. "Does your partner want kids? How many? How does he or she view money? Are you ready to settle down and he or she is still into the party scene? Having life goals that align with one another makes it more likely that your marriage will succeed."