Most people do not know the amount of time they should spend with a person they are dating. We have people who jump into a new relationship with anxious thereby spending all their time with the person they date. In most cases, such relationships die before they take roots. Others worsen the situation as they fight to take control of their partner’s schedule.
How can we balance the time we spend with partners?
Obviously, spending 100% of your time with a partner is too much and spending 0% of the time with your significant other is too little. Therefore, we have to come up with a balancing point. Do you think it is easy? No. people always experience a compelling force to spend much time with their new catches. Time together with a partner is always healthy but can be hazardous if not balanced.
Mostly, the demands of life and work related issues put a limit on the time couples can enjoy together. For instance, sudden business travels and unplanned work obligations limit the availability of one partner. This can be catastrophic is the other partner is craving for the same time.
Also, couples should balance the time they spend with each other with the time they spent with social friends and family members. This is because when people get into a relationship their availability to friends changes. To minimize the complaints from families and friends, you must find the balancing point.
It is also important for couples to spend some time alone. This time gives them a chance to reflect on their relationships, and they can also do what they like doing most. It also shows that one cares for himself after caring for work, friends, family, and relationship.
The main challenge is to get a balancing point where couples can spend time together without neglecting, work, families, and friends. The following tips will help you to get a balance.
1. Acknowledge that you are different from your partner
You have to realize that there are those people who need more time with their partners while others want to remain independent. It is not a must that your partner is of your type, and therefore you have to understand each other.
2. Consult your partner
Always ask your partner whether the time you are devoting in a relationship is enough. This is the best way as you are going to agree on the amount of time that works well for both of you.
3. Listen to your friend's advice
Stay connected to your friends as they are a support system and you can get good pieces of advice on how to maintain a relationship. Involving your partner in a company of your friends helps to bond strongly and also you don’t seem to neglect friends.
4. Propose a date night to your partner
It is the best way to prove to your partner that you are giving the relationship a priority on the face of tight schedules. This makes your partner to realize that you are always in his mind.
5. Recognize the ebb and flow
Always note the trend of your relationship to determine areas you should improve. This flow determines the energy couples should put in a relationship.
