Commonly, the scariest part of a new relationship is saying “I love you.” If you truly love your partner, confess your feelings when the time feels right. Do this even if you feel intimidated or scared that your partner doesn't feel the same. Chances are, if you feel strongly toward your partner, they feel the same about you. With a little preparation and confidence, you can easily profess your love!
Choosing the Right Time
Confess your love when the feeling seems mutual. To determine if the feeling is mutual, pay attention to any signs your partner gives off. As you get to know your partner, you’ll also get to know their feelings towards you. If your partner does things to make you smile, looks at you longingly, and makes you a priority in their life, they likely feel strongly towards you.
- For example, if your partner cooks your favorite meal for dinner or talks about their feelings a lot with you, it may be a sign that they love you.
- Signs that you truly love your partner include making them a priority, not looking for new people, and feeling a strong connection and attraction.
- While it is wonderful to feel strongly about your partner after a few dates, avoid telling them you love them until you are certain. That way, your affection will not seem desperate or clingy.
- Find confidence in your feelings, rather than being scared to express your love. You may regret not opening up down the line.
Expressing Your Feelings
Give yourself a pep talk before you say “I love you.” If you are nervous about telling your partner your feelings, take some deep breaths and talk yourself up. Say to yourself, “I can do this,” or something similar. Remind yourself of all the reasons why you love your partner to distract you from your fear of rejection.
Say "I love you" when the moment feels right. The perfect opportunity to confess your feelings will depend on your particular situation. When you feel the right moment has come, be direct and speak clearly. Tell your partner "I love you," with a genuine, warm tone. You can do this while eating dinner, having a picnic, or stargazing, for example.
- With a little reassurance, you can confess your love with confidence and assurance.
- You can also tell yourself “If it is meant to be, it will be.”
- Avoid saying “I love you” via text or phone call. You will not be able to read your partner’s expressions if you tell them through an indirect form of communication.
- For example, you can cuddle with your partner on the couch and look them in the eyes before you say your feelings.
- While wine can be romantic and set the mood, avoid telling your partner your feelings while intoxicated. You may not say exactly what you mean.
- Make sure you and your partner are not busy or distracted when you tell them your feelings. They may be stressed about work or school, and this may impact their mood.
- If you tell your partner your feelings in public, keep your volume low. You can whisper “I love you” into their ear as an intimate expression of love.
- If you want to say something other than "I love you," consider things like, "I can't believe how much I care for you," or "I feel such powerful adoration for you and only you." These are ways of saying the gist of your feelings without popping the "L-word."
- Other suggestions include "You're the best partner in the whole world," and "I love you more and more every day."
- Just because your partner doesn't say "I love you," back right away doesn't mean they don't feel strongly toward you. They just may need time to process the relationship and think about their feelings.
Showing Your Love
Compliment your partner often. Say things like, “Wow your outfit looks great,” or “Your hair looks great pushed back.” This reassures your partner that you care about them and are attracted to them.- You can also tell them how wonderful your date was and how grateful you are for such a fabulous partner.
- Say things like, "You are the most precious thing in my life," and "I don’t even want to think about what life would be like without you."
- If your partner is having a rough day, ask them to talk about it. Listen to their words carefully, and offer supportive words such as "Babe, you're wonderful. Don't worry about what your boss thinks."
- You can also tell your partner a joke to cheer them up.
- In addition, you can make your partner their favorite meal for dinner or bring them breakfast in bed.
- Another way to do a kind gesture is always opening the door for your partner.
- Be sure to hug and kiss your partner goodbye, as well.
